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Dear moms and dads, I know that we are not perfect, and on the path of education, there are many moments that we are not proud of. Lack of patience, lack of presence, lack of listening, too quick reactions and anything else could be found. A lot of this, at least for me, remains like a heavy stone on my heart and hurts me, why I didn't do it differently, why I couldn't do it better, why this and why that. Of course, the judgment that I am not good.

But a new day comes, a new opportunity, sometimes I act more awake, consciously, use my set of skills and techniques, or just stay calm and wait and act as a soft response. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. Parenting for me is definitely the most challenging lesson I have in this life. But this letter was such a solid proof to me that most of the time I take strength and confidence in my abilities from myself with my beliefs that do not support me. That I am too hard on myself.

This letter has much more power for me than some life wisdom essay.

With it, my daughter made it clear to me how she perceives me and what she feels about me. So, regardless of all the "mistakes" I make, she loves me and accepts me for who I am. Wow, what a Light shines from her.

I admit, this message rolled away many of these rocks of my own judgments and created a space for me to take a deep breath. I know there will be many more trials to come, but this will be something I can return to to rekindle my inner strength and confidence in myself and my decisions to support her in her journey of Life.

My little girl, but a great teacher.

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